You don't have to look far to see the popular self-help advice that suggests we "learn to love ourselves." I agree. It’s good advice, but how the hell do we do it? Accepting and finding peace within my body was something I once couldn’t imagine having. I’m not there yet, but my decision to practice a different way of thinking has started.

Our bodies are amazing and our desires are real. We must be open to exploring our pleasure. We must be open to learning from ourselves and our partners without shame or fear of judgment. That’s where the magic happens.

Here’s the thing: everything we’ve been taught works against us. Women are sold the idea that they will only feel sexy when they win the male gaze, and/or are selected or praised for their looks.

This conversation is wildly needed, so I’m just gonna go ahead and ask it... 👉🏻 Are you self-conscious about your vulva? 

"Act like a lady. Be nice. Don't be such a bitch."

We've all heard it, haven't we?